The thorn in your flesh hurts so much... so what can we do?

The thorn is there to 'mature' us into a better person.. If we can pass the test... the thorns will become the real crown that kings put on...

This crown of thorns, familiar with this?

This crown of thorns...
Who wore this crown that we know?
That bleeds and pains from its deep wounds?
And who did this to us? How and why?

Almost every family has a 'thorn'..
Why is there this 'thorn' be put into our family?
Think twice..
Listen...

A thorn is put into a family or anywhere to test us...
It is to test our strength in faith and believe...
It tests our forbearance, our will, our patience..
It tests our love, our anger, our emotions.. our character...

It is purposely put there..
So as to train us to be a better person...
To test how loving, how forgiving, how trusting one can be...
To test how just, how civilized, how strong we can be...

Once we can pass this test..
the pain will not be there...
the hurt will not be there too...
Just an understanding, a deep realization about LOVE...

It is best to understand that there is always a 'thorn' in the family... seldom 'rioses'...

Listen...
what do I mean the 'thorn' in the family?
It refers to that 'one' whom you love dearly yet...
hurts and pains you the most with his actions and thoughts...
Do you have one in the family? Oh, why not roses?

Yes, why not roses?
Most people are too unseeing, unfeeling, ungrateful...
The 'rose' is the outstanding, courageous, strong willed one...
The 'rose' is that one who leads and feeds the family...

Yes, why not roses?
Most people take things for granted...
Most people are more negative and unfeeling...
Thus even the roses are thorns in their eyes...

So, are there roses in the family?
Yes, there are... close your eyes and feel it...
You have... and most important of all, are you that rose?
The rose is always that one who offers unconditional love and sacrifices...

So, what can we do to this 'thorn'?
Why should we have thorns in our family?
Why should we lower our heads and feel the pain?
Why why why? these are those whys we always as

Discipline must be enforced by you upon your own self. When forced by others, you consider it as 'criticism' when your weakness is pointed by another one.

Discipline must be enforced by you

upon your own self, for when discipline 

is forced by another, its results are only 

suffocating and disastrous. 

When your weakness is pointed by 

another you consider it as "criticism" - 

once you have recognized your own weakness, 

only then will you truly seek the strength 

that will pull you and allow you to rise 

to the level of perfection. 

Carry the inspiration with you, always - 

motivate yourselves by visualizing your 

true independence. 

Remind your every thought that 

arises that you are now in God's control - 

let the fears, fear their own existence. 

Let only the truth lead you - 

simplify your task by implicitly obeying 

the commands of the conscience - 

stop looking to only hear it - it is time, 

that you listened from now

In arguments, the insane one will always throw personal attack and say bad critics just to revenge and make his opponent angry! So, heed not, just stay COOL or 你中他计！哈哈

Most of the time, it is the 'insane' one who 
will be throwing critics and angering his opponent,
thus it is BEST to stay COOL... 

Anger will eat up our age, 
distort our smiling face...  

Mentally he is mad, 
so don't be mad oneself.  

Medically his body metabolism is at risk, 
surgically, his liver is affected...
 
Yes, mentally he is mad temporary...

So laugh back at his insanity that 
only he himself have to be responsible of... 
why live up to his expectations of what you actually is not?  
Why live up to his critics of which you actually is not?

If you think you are not who he think you are, 
why care and cry?
If you think you are not who he say you are, 
who care and why care?

If you think you did not do what he condemned you did, 
why care and take it into heart?
If you think you did not do what he exaggerated you did, 
who care and why care?

If he is sick, you are not, right?
If he is wrong, you are not wrong, right?
If he is angry, you are not angry, right?
If he is mad, you are not mad, right?


So, why participate to be like him?
He is sick, he is wrong, 
he is angered and 'mad'?
So, why join the debate?


If you join him, you are not 
how right you think you are...
If you join him, you are not 
how good you think you are...

So, just stay COOL and not ANGERED...

Heated arguments and abusive fights are negative effects in the family...

We are habitual 'animals', those harsh unreasonable critics used in arguments will soon be spicing our words while at work too...

Parents who angrily argue over small matters everyday will soon be a loser or a failure in their jobs...

THINK POSITIVE... Your life is your garden, your thoughts are the seeds. If your life isn't awesome, you've been watering the weeds...Terry Prince...

Positive arguments will end up putting things right, but negative arguments won't... If you think the argument brings more bad than good, DON'T EVER START IT...Rule No. 7

What is a fallacy? In logic and rhetoric, a fallacy is a misconception resulting from incorrect reasoning in argumentation. By accident or design, fallacies may exploit

Arguments only stop when we apply a FULL-STOP, not a COMMA... A full-stop comes only with sincere love...

Motivational arguments... think twice....

Argue? Attack? Destrutive or constructive? This is just an example...

Heated arguments will cause 'liver burntout'.... 怒伤肝

ARGUMENTS are for FOOLS....

There are books on this.....

Against longevity catergories... [e] common argumentative fallacies...

The best argument is NEVER TO START AN ARGUMENT! Relax and detox your mind.. forgive and forget....

Learn from 'baby fights' or 'sibling fights' .... Rule No. 6. FIGHT first HUG later, FIGHT first KISS later....

Sharing in arguments... solving arguments.... Rule No. 5. STICK TO ONE TOPIC AT A TIME..

De-clawing pointing fingers....

There are 2 theories for arguing with a woman, Neither one works...

Family arguments... Rule No 4... NEVER IN FRONT OF YOUNG KIDS...

Family arguments... Rule No. 3 ... FORGIVE AND FORGET those 'UNINTENTIONAL cruel angry remarks'....

Problemed people tend to argue more... mistakenly instilling negatives into the environments...Rule no. 2.. DON'T BITE...

In an argument, there must be one who can lead the argument, thus allowing a moderate, positive approach in solving things. Rule No. 1, DON'T TURN THE TURTLE...

It takes two to argue, make sure that the two are not INSANE... it sounds a death penalty....

It takes two to argue, thus make sure that one of them is SANE....

Multiple Intelligence is needed in arguments... Never heat up an argument too...

Post 301... If arguments are to reach a solution to a problem, go ahead... don't stop... Timing is important, don't make it too long...

Count our blessings, of which we have plenty... count these cherries, of which we have in abundance too...

Strong people are people who have the ability to face all odds, face life challenges bravely and not cry when in pain/sufferings...

Who are our great teachers? They plant seeds of knowledge that grow forever....

Heed this, a more successful person is more observant, thinks more and understands in depths...This is reality...

My dear friends, a more successful person is more observant, thinks more and
understands in depth. For the same matter, a more successful person sees
several years ahead, while we see only tomorrow. The difference between a
year and a day is 365 times.

Think! how far have you seen ahead in your life How thoughtful in depth are
you. This is reality...

The 3 laws of TQ...

[1] I can + You can = We can
[2] Leverage our work, less work, more benefits/advantages
[3] Stay in the team, grow with the team, reap with the team...

The 3 laws of MQ ...

[1] Do not do to others that you do not want others to do unto you

[2] See all others as your own brothers and sisters

[3] The name we call ourselves is "I", so we are the same 'I'

We see negatives, sadness, hopelessness when we feel that way inside us even when we are in front of beauty or true wealth itself...

We see beauty because we have beauty inside us...

What comes from one's mouth is a reflection of one's thoughts and heart... be careful how we use our words... say good words or say nothing!

Interdependence is an art in itself, the end products being peace and harmony...

Interdependence should be instilled at home among children, adults and parents-in-laws, relatives and neighbours...

Educare means education plus care... .

Educare emphasizes on character building, moral values, grapes of virtues, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health...

Educare starts from our homes, their teachers are the parents and elders at home...

Trust....

Our learning attitude.... how much one can learn depends on which glass we choose....

Close your eyes, feel the love floating in the universe and be emerged in this universal love....Love is the solvent to dissolve even the hardest heart...

Here is a pie chart showing a principle-centered person written by Stephen Covey,,, have a closer look...

what are they?

- family

- money

- spouse

- work

- self

- possession
- friend
- pleasure
- social group
- enemy [let me change it to church]

A principle-centered person will live within the principles of life, follow the life compass instead of the clock and never an extremist himself.  We have to allocate time to attend to our different needs....

Thus, 
They won't call us a pervert..
They won't call us a miser...
They won't call us an extremist...
They won't call us an workaholic...
They won't call us a maniac...
They won't call us an introvert...
They won't call us a hermit...
They won't call us a loser..
They won't call us a glutton 
They won't call us a devil...
They won't call us other names...